Sometimes a Woman's Just Gotta Cry

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Sometimes a woman’s just gotta to cry.

For my male readers, sorry, this is a distinctively female post, but if you hang around, you might glean a few tidbits of insight into the female soul that could prove useful in the future.
Unlike many of my soul sisters, I don’t cry often. I’m left-brain dominant, and tend to favor logic rather than emotion. I can usually talk myself out of the impulse to cry. Listen to a recent conversation I had with myself when a wave of unexplained sadness washed over me:

Wow, I feel like crying.

(Pause for self-analysis.) If I think long enough, I’m sure I can find something to cry about, but there’s nothing that would truly justify it. Must be hormones.
If the sadness persists, the conversation continues:

I don’t suppose it would hurt to cry. I’d probably feel better, but my nose would get all stuffed up, and then I’d have a sinus headache for the rest of the evening. And my eyelids always look puffy after I cry, so I’ll look really bad at work tomorrow.

Sometimes that approach works. Other times the tear tide rises even farther in favor of a good old-fashioned blubber fest, and I scramble to out-reason my brimming eyelids:

You know, some people really have something to cry about. Think about poor Sandy who’s battling cancer, and Molly who doesn’t know where her daughter is right now. And what about the Potters, who are having a very tough year since Jack got laid off? You really don’t have anything to cry about. In fact, this whole line of thinking just demonstrates how ungrateful you are.

And if the feelings still persist, I break out the big guns:

God tells us to rejoice in everything, you know, and you are definitely not rejoicing right now. In fact, you’re seriously considering diving right into a great big pity party and wailing your little heart out, aren’t you?

And sometimes I do just that, dragging my logical little left-brain behind me.

You know what? I usually feel much better for having done it, too.

So how does God feel about crying women and tender hearts?

I think he’s quite comfortable with us. After all, he created us this way. And the same tender heart that cries for “no reason,” is soft enough to have sympathy for the helpless, empathy for the hurting, and compassion on the elderly and unborn.

It was the heart of the grateful that wept over the feet of Jesus (Luke 7:44).

It was the heart of a mother that cried out in the desert, fearing for her son (Genesis 21).

It was the heart of a friend who mourned death’s untimely blow (Acts 9:39).

And it was the heart of a faithful follower that wept brokenheartedly at the tomb early that morning (John 20:13).

All women. All crying. All affirmed by our Lord.

“Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy,” (Psalm 126:5)

"The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces,” (Isaiah 25:8) 

"'Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears, for your work will be rewarded,’ declares the LORD” (Jeremiah 31:16).

Sometimes a woman’s just gotta cry. God made us this way. 

And you know what brings me a lot of comfort in the middle of a good old-fashioned meltdown? 

The knowledge that Jesus cried, too.

“During the days of Jesus' life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission” (Hebrews 5:7).

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  1. Hello Lori, stopping by from EOA Link Up. The thing that has most helped me when I have been sad is worship music. I am only new to worship music and it has really helped me through above most other things I have tried. If I feel emotions pent up inside, I do like to hire a good cry movie it is a good release, but I don't want to hold on to it too long, been there, too much crying is draining. Have a blessed day. Tara.

    1. Tara,
      I agree -- Christian music touches the tender places within our soul in ways words sometimes can't reach. Thanks for reminding us of this. And thanks for stopping by :)

  2. j. cantone10:00 AM

    I'm a man who is broken hearted. u have just helped me more than u can imagine
    thank u. always love this devotional.

    1. J.,

      This is the beauty of the truth of Scripture -- it is for everyone. Thanks for braving the female slant to get to the universal bottom line -- God cares when we sorrow. "He is a man acquainted with grief." So glad he is our high priest. May his comfort be very real to you today.

  3. Hi We're neighbors over at Jolene Engle's Alabaster Jar Link Up.
    YOU are so right! Sometimes a woman just needs to cry. She needs to release pent up emotions, even the good emotions and sometimes they just spill over into tears.

  4. “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book” (Psalm 56:8)

    I am not a crier either - however, there are challenges that have led me to cry in the closest, literally. Faith, though, is what gets me to dry those tears and learn the amazing comfort of just sitting with the Father:)

  5. I'm extremely tender-hearted and cry very easily. Wept profusely while watching the Lincoln movie this weekend. I've found that crying is basically an all-purpose stress reliever. It's definitely a girl thing, though! :)

  6. I have spend a good amount of time crying this year because of a difficult life situation my husband and I have been dealing with. It is hard not to give in to the temptation to have a big pity party, but what a wonderful reminder that we are to rejoice always. One thing that has helped when I am feeling down is to count my blessings - He has given us so much and I am truly thankful for that, even in this challenging time :) Have a blessed Wednesday!

  7. Thank you for sharing -- so good to be reminded that Jesus cried too!

  8. Thank you for sharing this over at WholeHearted Home this week. I've heard that it is good to cry because we have hormones that are released that are healthy to be released.